Wednesday, May 05, 2010

I am taking cheesecake...

We have yet another meeting at the school tomorrow.

The last meeting was very hard for me to figure out. I normally am a great read, but take an educator who has been in practice for 16 or so years, who is trying to cover his ass, and placate at the same time...I left feeling almost exactly like I did going in.

Also note I PROMISED myself I would shut my mouth, and let DH handle it. 4 minutes into it, I was biting at the bit. I was good, and just spoke my heart....

We met with the principal, (who we found out) was one of the writers of the "gifted and talented policy". We asked him about his policy, and pointed out the several discrepancies between what they told us they would do, their non communication of the policy, and how the policy is a great policy, but only when being adhered to.

I will not go into it too deeply here, because frankly there is too much information, and my brain as far as this is concerned is MAXED out. If they followed the policy, we would have a child who was enjoying school, and not bored.

Every meeting I have had, every single time I have mentioned re: my son, well in almost 2 years, it feels like it fell on deaf ears.

Hence the reason I have let DH, take the drivers seat on this. He is diplomatic, a team player, and extremely good at developing policy. He had the principal stumped a couple of times, and I even saw the poor man turn a shade of almost green when my husband pointed out a specific failure.

It really comes down to a couple of things. Just because someone is credentialed, does not mean they will care, or will know how to implement a plan, and common sense.

I am unsure what happened to common sense but I am amazed daily by the lack of it.

I will also add here, we have a case of a child who is misunderstood by his teachers, and heck most folks, and from what the school psychologist has mentioned, it might be that way until college.

That means my child is coming home and reading Scientific American because he wants to, he is curious, and understands concepts that frankly most adults have trouble with...

and tonight the poor kid had to fill out a homework sheet about people pulling an over sized carrot out of the ground with the assistance of a mouse, and cat.

No wonder he is frustrated, and acting out. He wants to study biology, physics, chemistry....and they are giving him homework about a carrot......

and they wonder what his problem is.

Pray for us. DH has been working very hard...very very hard on this power point for tomorrow. He knows the policy like the back of his hand...

I am going to try and keep my mouth closed and let him keep this staff on task, I have nothing new to tell these people. I have said my piece....

PRAY

5 comments:

8675309 said...

Ack! How frustrating for you! I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Prayers going up right now. God knows your needs, and your amazing son's needs. Hang in there....

vw bug said...

You and the family are on my prayer list. Working to get my son a 504 for his dysgraphia through the school system has been tough to say the least. And next year we change schools with a new principal and new set of teachers. I have no idea how much pain you are going through because it must be worse than the stuff I'm doing... and you are a saint to keep your cool.

Aimee said...

Oh wow! Praying for your son and your family. That has to be so frustrating for him, and I'm sure he feels just as helpless as he does bored. It's good he has parents who are willing to fight for him and do what is right for him. Hang in there!

axi said...

Have you checked wrightslaw.com? Gifted students fall under special education. Here is the page for gifted http://www.wrightslaw.com/blog/?p=1982. Wish I had more help, but I'm fighting from the other end. My son son has high functioning autism.

You could also see if there are any advocates in you area. They will know the area laws inside and out and be able to stay unemotional during conflicts. And they have the added bonus of being a LOT cheaper than a lawsuit. Good luck!

XtnYoda said...

I'm in prayer... we'd take him back in a heartbeat!