Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Feedback session...

Tomorrow we have our feedback session at the psychologist. SR has said he would like to attend, he has a lot of questions for her. I will bring him. DH, SR and I, on a trip that is sure to echo in my mind for the rest of my days.

The fall has been glorious here, leaves gorgeous. PERFECT. Last weekend my Sister was here, we packed the collective, MIL, my Sissy up and we drove to a local large park and hiked, and enjoyed the sun on our faces, and the leaves. We spent 3 hours walking . A wonderful day. I do wish we would have spent 8 out there though, because today....BRRRR. The wind is vicious, and biting. Farmer's almanac says BEWARE rough winter. This means 6 months on some sort of lock down. This is a shame as DH and SR have been going on very long bike rides. DH riding his bike to work and back, which is 26 miles a day. This has been a good time for him to excercise and center himself. When he gets home, he and SR go on 3-9.5 mile rides. SR is strong, and is loving the alone "guy time", and the freedom that comes with riding a bike. He can choose his path, and it is quiet, he is out of doors which he loves. The biking has been a cool life saver for DH and SR, and has given them a very healthy outlet. With winter coming, they are going to get our YMCA membership back, and start swimming. I have been talking to SR about a possible kids triathalon this year. He thinks it sounds cool. Now that his physical skills are finally at his age, and he frustrates less, the vestibular issues better I need to find things that will challenge him. How we will long for the sun. Time to purchase snow bibs, and boots. I have waited just in case feet grow. I also think flannel sheets are in order, and fuzzy jammies. I loathe the winter.

PN is wonderful, all reports from school went well, she is reading, writing, spelling, and getting along with ALL students. ART is her passion. I am not artsy, or craftsy so this has been a challenge. MIL is artistic and crafty, thank goodness. PN has been decorating the entire house for our HAlloween party this week. She has made centerpieces, gifts for guests, she made a bunny out of a pumpkin. The girl wakes for art, and sleeps art. I am glad she creative, and loves what keeps her little hands busy. She has a great eye for color and detail, something I do not have.

I have had a couple of comments lately, I went ahead and published them, but doubt if I will do so in the future. Knowing a person that happens to have children that are not mine, do not make you an expert. I have mulled every possible option in the last 5 years. Seriously, I have. We even changed our physical address after much research. Our mission now, is to try to help SR understand how he works, how is sympathetic and parasympathic systems are responding and how to get though it. This is not the same child I dealt with 3 years ago, he is figuring it out. He has been making great progress, especially for a child . He managed fine through kindergarten, 1st, and 2nd grades. He has had mentors since his arrival here @ this school, his IQ tests allowed for that. The problems now is frankly SR's asynchratic developement is REALLY showing up this year. His teachers in kindergarten, 1st, and 2nd loved him, and he was little in the way of "teaching", because he had all of those skills. 3rd grade is a challenging year for a lot of these kiddos. 8 is not an uncommon age for a diagnosis.

Anyway, suggestions I do not mind. Calling me CRUEL, that is mean, trollish, and not productive. Those are fighting words, and you can take it elsewhere. There are plenty of places on the interwebs to engage people. You have no idea how I run my home, or what I have done to make it possible for us to function as a family.

7 comments:

wifeunit said...

I don't get the comments in my reader, so I had to come over and check out the last few posts. Now I get it. I hate some of what I have read. Hate.

But then there are somethings that are good and great to hear, too. Things that were said perfectly, that I hope you took to heart.

I hate that bad must come with the good, but you don't need to defend your parenting and choices to strangers who sit in ignorant judgment.

I hope tomorrow goes well for SR and he finds promise in the answers he gets. I hope it goes well for you too.

vw bug said...

I'm sorry to hear about your feedback. I hope you continue to ignore people like that and do what you think is best. Only you know your family. Trust me on this one... I do understand.

Bou said...

Heh. Well you know how I feel about the passing of judgement. I nearly stroked when I read that. Gah!

PN needs to come to my house and teach me how to be creative. After 45 years... it still ain't happenin', says I, who is wearing all solid colors... neutral earth tones. Sheesh. My standard in dressing...

Homefront Six said...

You are not cruel. You are doing the best for him that you can do - and that is exactly what he needs. You are an incredible mother and you listen to your intuition better than anyone I know. I pray that you never lose the ear for that.

It's very easy to look at a situation that you are not in the thick of and see what you consider to be the "best option". I've been guilty of that jut this week. However, unless you're "in the sh**" like Bou said earlier, you don't see the full picture so what you consider to be the best option really isn't.

YOU know your son. DH knows your son. You both know your family. As long as you keep fighting for what's best for both, it will be ok.

You amaze me. I am pretty sure you'd tell me to shut up if you were here but I look up to you as a mother and a person. Later on, I'll have my children thank you because I would be less of a parent if I didn't have your example to follow.

airforcewife said...

OK, SRSLY? I didn't see that comment either.

But, glass houses much?

I'm with wifeunit on this one.

keri said...

Hi - I have been reading your blog for a long time, infrequently leaving comments. I will never understand why people choose to judge and be mean/hateful in this forum. I have nothing but respect for you and your husband as you help both your children be the best they can be

Mrs. Who said...

Ditto what everyone above has said...having been a teacher for awhile, I've witnessed the struggles parents go through when all they want is the best for their child. And when it's a continuing struggle to meet those needs, God knows you don't need crap from the holier-than-thou jerks. Y'all sound like AMAZING parents. God bless you...